If you’re thinking about whether or not to have sex with someone, there’s probably already a lot going through your mind. Before taking that step, make sure that these questions are ones that you’ve thought about, too…and that you’re satisfied the answers are in your best interest.
Have I discussed birth control with my partner?
(If you’re going to have sex, be sure that birth control is a topic you’ve already talked about. Know the risks and outcomes associated with each type of birth control, and use it to protect yourself as well as your partner.)
Do I have all the knowledge I need to prevent an unwanted pregnancy and the spread of STIs?
(The effects of sexual choices can follow you longer and farther than you may have realized. Be sure to inform yourself about the risks so that you can make choices based on your personal values and long-term plans.)
Do I want to have sex for selfish reasons?
(Know what your reasons are for thinking about having sex. Every individual around you has unique value and potential. Rather than using others to meet your own needs, take a minute to think about who she is and who she is becoming. What is her story? What are her goals? What kind of activities does she enjoy? Using sex for yourself can damage relationships and hurt others.)
How do my religious beliefs affect my decision?
(Making decisions that go against your values can have a damaging effect on your thoughts and emotions. If you have values and spiritual beliefs that matter to you, have you thought about how the decision to have sex will affect your heart?)
The decision to have sex is an important one. Before you drift into a decision that could affect your future as well as your future relationships, take a minute to think through these questions. Are there other questions you think a guy should think about before having sex? (How about, Have I thought of all the possible consequences? Am I willing to accept any of the consequences?)
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