I heard it again last week: “I wish somebody had told me.”
I’ve heard it from old women and young women.
I’ve heard it from women whose abortions happened a few months ago and women who had abortions decades ago. It’s the phrase I’ve heard more than any other from post-abortive women:
“Nobody told me.”
“I wish somebody had told me the truth.”
“I’m not sure I would have made the same decision if somebody had told me.”
A 2004 study showed that 67% of women who had an abortion received no counseling prior to their abortions, and 84% felt that the counseling they received was inadequate. A major procedure, yet no counseling.
We believe that women are strong, beautiful, intelligent, and capable. Fully informed and equipped, women can and should be trusted to make holistic plans regarding their pregnancies, intended or not. What most women also need is someone they can trust to tell them the truth and to give them the time and space they need while they process the information. It’s one of the most valuable services we offer our clients.
The same is true for men who are facing unintended pregnancies. We fully support a man’s need to have information unique to his situation and answers for the questions that swirl around him.
Rushing into a decision unprepared is the surest way to experience regret in the long run. When you’re facing the news of an unintended pregnancy, be sure you slow down enough to get adequate counseling. Selah’s peer counselors are always ready to offer you information, to let you process the options in an objective, proven format that gives you the feedback you need to figure out how to make the best decisions for yourself. We want you to have all the facts.
And if you’re one of the thousands who looks back and feels betrayed. Or sad. Or angry that you weren’t told the truth. That you didn’t have all the information and may have chosen differently if you had. We’re here for you, too. We will gladly walk with you through the process of healing. You were alone then, but you don’t have to be alone anymore.
We’re here. No matter what. Let’s talk.